The Attitude To Love: Singles vs Youths Fall In Love During Pandemic

By On Zhi Ying

Both singles and people in relationships are being alone during the pandemic lockdown.

Kajang: The outbreak of the COVID-19 pandemic has brought unprecedented challenges to singles and youths who fall in love during the pandemic, which in turn makes both groups have different attitudes towards love. These attitudes are the standards for them to treat their relationships.

COVID-19 affects every aspect of people’s lives, including relationships. During MCO, singles are difficult to get a spouse and cause them to feel anxious about missed opportunities in relationships.

Social media creator Cindy Low, 24 years old single, agreed that she felt anxious because of not having a partner.

Low mentioned that she has been busy at work and the outbreak of pandemic causes her does not have time to meet new people. She worried when she above aged 27 still being single.

Cindy Low agreed that she felt anxious because of not having a partner.

Another single person who is a fresh graduate name Soo Shun Wei, 23 years old denied that he felt anxious.

He believes the right person will appear at the right time, but he agreed it is difficult for him to find a partner during this period.

“I need to take a long time to build a relationship because we can’t see each other in reality and this is more difficult for me to define the relationship,” Soo said.

Soo Shun Wei need to take a long time to build a relationship.

“I don’t feel anxious, but if my friends are in relationships, I will be anxious because of peer pressure,” said another single person, Paul Lim who is a 24 years old engineer.

However, he disagreed people hard to get in a relationship during the pandemic because regardless there is a pandemic or not, finding a partner during both situations has their difficulties. He thinks it is easy if he is willing and insists to find a partner.

Paul Lim thought that it is easy if he is willing and insists to find a partner during pandemic.

Besides, some people have relationships in the cyberworld during this pandemic.

A couple who both aged 24, catering owner Eric Ng and IT support Clare Chan, claimed that they do not think it is a problem.

“The Internet is now advanced. We have diverse platforms to meet a new one like I met Clare by playing the online game,” Ng said.

Clare Chan does not think it is a problem to get into relationship during pandemic.

Eric Ng said that he met with Clare by playing online game.

A 22 years old university student Lim Jing Xuen met her partner on the dating application. She believes the safeness of this application.

She stated that not everyone willing to use the dating application for dating, and this is the reason that single hard to meet a new friend and get into a relationship during this period.

Lim Jing Xuen met her partner on the dating application.

I’m Single, Lonely But Free

The loneliness is more terrible than the pandemic and being single even more punishing, but they have the freedom and they can fully enjoy. They also took advantages of the freedom to cope with their loneliness.

“I feel lonely at night. I hope someone can accompany me,” said Soo.

Although he cannot find a partner immediately, he watched movies, chatted with friends or practiced electronic keyboard to overcome the loneliness and he enjoyed these moments.

Soo enjoys the moment of practicing electronic keyboard.

“I feel lonely during MCO because I always stay alone in a small room,” Paul said.

He tried to enjoy being alone with exercising or cooking which he can complete alone.

He thought that the activities which need to be carried out with others such as chatting are not effective to reduce loneliness in the long term.

Paul's specialty is tomato diced chicken.

Low claimed that even she has a partner in the future, there is no guarantee that he can always be with her, so she trained herself to “get along” with loneliness.

“I went out alone for photography before MCO and during MCO, I’m still improving my skill at home,” she said.

Low went out alone to photography before MCO.

The Secret of Cyberlove Couples Thriving The Relationship

The cyberlove couples are currently being long-distance relationship and video call is essential for them.

Both couples shared every moment in their life. They also have little fun during the video call.

“My girlfriend often plays with the funny filter and makes me laugh non-stop,” said Lim.

Lim's girlfriend was playing funny filter to make her happy.

Chan mentioned that Ng sometimes played guitar and sang for her.

Chan and Ng both agreed that sweet talk is important for them to maintain their relationship.

“Sweet talk can increase our relationship and we will also love each other more and more. Of course, they must be creative and interesting so that the other person can feel the sincerity,” said Ng.

Ng sometimes plays guitar and sings for Chan.

To strengthen their relationship, Lim stated that both parties must have common interests. They played the game together or watched the same movies and after that, they share their thoughts.

She added, sometimes they wrote love letters for each other. It is romantic and sincere, which can increase the pleasure between them.

It’s All About The Attitudes

Low thought that learning self-love is important before qualified to love others despite she was anxious about her relationship.

“Only by loving myself can make me become better and attract better person comes to my life,” she said.

“I will train myself to become more confident, and stay optimistic to wait for the right person,” said Soo.

Paul enjoys being single because he can focus his inner self. Also, he can spend more time with his family and friends and do whatever he likes.

Ng and Chan stated that mutual trust is important in their current situation. They trust each other more to let each other feels secure.

“My girlfriend wanted to meet up very much and became anxious and insecure, so I think we should keep an optimistic attitude and don’t think too much. Just enjoy the happiness that only cyberlove couples have,” said Lim.